Or how to try and not kill the religious wing-nut in your online Mommy group.
I recently joined thirty something moms group on invitation from one of the ladies from the photo blog I'm on. I thought "Hey this should be fun! Mum's from different countries and back grounds, we can learn from each other!"
Someone hand me the dunce cap and send me to my corner. I am an idiot. There is one member of this group I'll call Bessy. Bessy is a devout Christian from some where in the midwestern United States. Bessy has some strongly held opinions about sex.
Ok lets be frank here I am a very sexual person. I have a freaking tool box full of "toys". The Man in my life is as adventerous as they come. We enjoy sex. We enjoy playing. We do stuff that I'm sure some would classifiy as "kinky".
I had no issue with the fact that this woman was uncomfortable with this topic, it was how she expressed this discomfort that left me gobsmacked. She would call things dirty or slutty to her but was swearing she didn't think that about us, though her wording was steering in that direction. She would ask for clarification on items and then would say our answers made her physically ill. She even admitted to eating a whole pizza because the conversation had stressed her out so much and then said she purged it because she knew it was too much food. And she thinks we're all laughing at her.
Seriously, I'm not laughing, I am crying that this woman in her 30's is so wounded, so twisted in her view of the world. I want to shake her and say, your God loves you no matter what and your church has no right to make you feel the shame of joy in sex that isn't in missionary position.
